When I was little, I was so excited about Thanksgiving Dinner. I loved it — everyone gathered around, we all talked, the whole family was there, and we had all my favorite foods, including home made pie and whipped cream from a can. Before that, we watched the parade on TV and feasted on orange danishes. We watched the dog show, after, and everyone was together, and laughing, and really happy.
Now, I see another side to Thanksgiving: the hours spent in the kitchen, the frustration of overcooking something, of having to wait for one thing to make another, of having to do endless dishes because really, who has twelve mixing bowls? It’s about trying to find room for sixteen people around a table designed for six, and a lot more frustration in trying not to hurt anyone’s feelings.
For me, the night before Thanksgiving is a lot better, now. I watch movies with my family while pies bake, we discuss what we’re thankful for, we have a different sort of fun. This year, my mom made four pies completely from scratch: two pumpkin, two apple. She made a fifth, cherry, but the filling for that came in a can.
Tonight, my brother and I were watching Doctor Who, the New Adventures, season four finale. There was this quiet moment where the character had to decide how much he was willing to give up to get what he wanted, and my brother pointed out that those were the moments that Russell T. Davies and Joss Whedon were so famous for. There’s this moment where sacrifice has to be made, where the character has to give as much as he’s willing, in order to get what he wants.
It’s heartbreaking, and beautifully done, and something a lot of writers just don’t have the skill to pull off. Some of my favorite books work because the author is able to push the main character into that crisis moment, and find a resolution that involves a high sacrifice, and a higher pay-off.
In television, Whedon and Davies are the two writers I see that insane mastery from the most (and that’s a good thing — if more writers played on that balance, I’d watch way too much television). They’re a lot better than I am, better than I hope to be. In books, I can name a good half-dozen examples, including masters like King, and this year’s most inspiring (to me) new author, Seanan McGuire.
I’m pretty sure the apparently instinctive awareness of that balance is something I’ll always admire, and something I’ll always struggle to work towards, myself. I’m not sure I’ll ever be good enough to get it right, even most of the time, but it’s something I try to look out for in my own work and something I try to remember to comment on when I’m doing critique work for other people.
I was really glad my brother pointed it out — having something to keep striving for, and writers who keep inspiring me, is something that I am thankful for. I really hope that some day my own work can make people want to be better, too, and I’m thankful for the chance to try and achieve that goal, too.
But mostly, I suppose, I’m thankful for the quiet moments with my family before the insanity of all the baking starts in the morning.
Much love and a happy Thanksgiving to you all.
Sincerely,
Brittany Maresh
P.S. It’s 1:00 a.m. I’ll try to remember to edit this for coherency and grammar and what not later, but I make no promises.